Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Etiquette Question. . . .

This is a tough one. I know right from wrong, and I know that this is probably wrong, but would really like to get some more input. I am getting ready to order my holiday cards. This will be my 4th Christmas with the boy. My whole entire family has met him several times, all of the aunts, uncles, cousins and what not. We do not live together. We are not planning on getting married (these are personal choices for both of us and we are both perfectly comfortable with this and feel very secure in the relationship in the state that it is in). When I plan parties of any sort I always include him as a host. I have not in the past included him on my holiday cards, but I am considering doing so this year. I know that it is not Emily Post or Miss Manners standards, but due to all circumstances, what are your thoughts? And here is the big one, picture or no picture? Would love any and all feedback. Thanks!

6 comments:

J said...

I think it's fine to include him! Emily Post may not tell you so, but I think it makes sense given your relationship. I've been thinking about the same thing since I just moved in with BF and I do think I will include him on the cards I send to friends and family.

My personal preference is for photo cards with kids, but not adults. That said, there are some great photo cards out there!

Jax said...

Four years together, and happy, is no small accomplishment. Congrats! A joint card is definitely appropriate, especially for shared friends and close relative. For those who may take offense, send them a one off from just you. But honestly I can’t imagine anyone that knows the two of you would take the slightest offense.

I personally love picture cards, especially collage cards from the past year’s fun! Bottom line, do what feels right for you both and leave everyone to deal with however they so choose!

Suz said...

I agree with J - definitely okay to include him on the card. As far as photos go, I'm only pro kids on cards, maybe it's prejudiced against childless adults but I know what you look like, you haven't changed since last time I saw you (in opposition to the way kids grow up so much) so I'm not a fan. That said, its your card and you should do what you like!

Kim said...

Do a card with the boy :)

Pic or no pic... it's up to you. I love getting a pic since I never end up developing photos from my digital camera... but those who send photo cards end up on my fridge :)

five tomatoes said...

I think you'd be fine doing it, but I'm going to do it this year, so I'm biased. We've been living together for a year and dating for five years so I doubt our status is a surprise to anyone.

I don't know if I'm going to do a photo or not. I'm doing our moving announcements now and I think if we do a picture of us on those in addition to the house, then I probably won't do photo Christmas cards.

Anonymous said...

As a single woman with most of my friends scattered around the country, I really enjoy receiving photo cards - especially when they are not JUST of the kids. I don't get to see my old college friends often enough, so the photos are always a treat. And in turn, should I conclude that none of my friends want to see me since I have no children? Whether it's a vacation photo, or one posed with my beautiful dog or latest beau they haven't yet met - I think my friends are as interested to see that I've kept in great shape and have adopted an angled bob over my usual long hairstyle, as I am to see that their families wore matching white shirts and khakis to their annual 4th of July shindig.

 
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